[Leica] On Love and Marriage

[drleonpomeroy at verizon.net (Leon Pomeroy )]

P.S. Given all the recent talk (I get the "Digest") about match-ups that
sometimes become mix-ups, I'm moved me to share my recent Blog. for what
it's worth?  I do get paid to think about such things!  More importantly,
like many of you, like Ted, I'm blessed with a great marriage (Approaching
30 years).in an imperfect world.       

 

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-good-and-evil/201205/love-and-emo
tional-intelligence

 

 

Your M5.50 mm, f1/2 Guy, 

 

Dr. Leon Pomeroy

Northern  Virginia USA

 

Ted Wrote:

 

As much as this hurts I have to put my 2 pennies worth of opinion on 

long-time marriage! Given I just experienced 63 years of a very lovingly 

interesting and satisfying married life before my dear Irene passed on. :-(

 

If in the beginning you marry a good woman or good man understanding it's 

not going to be a bed of roses and there maybe in that bed of roses a few 

"pricks" along the way. That you are prepared to have the odd straining 

moments of communication, both heated and as lovingly as it can possibly be.


To admit, you as the male are prepared to accept you "ARE WRONG AND SHE IS 

RIGHT!" And vise versa! It's a two way street always! Give and take, get 

over it and move on together still enjoying the wonderful feeling of her or 

he cuddled by your side anytime .

 

If you are properly matched? Obviously understood right from the first time 

you find her cuddled by your side in the warmth of the night. There isn't 

any reason for a pennies worth of thought about divorce. I see divorcing 

when children have been conceived as one of the most cruel things parents 

can bestowe on their off spring. Having not done that, I'm sure there are 

other opinions.

 

By the same token today's society is a wrangle of perceived "entitlement 

beyond common sense" where "NO" is the only so called correcting answer to 

everything. "No you can't do that, this and every stupid asinine reason to 

turn the society into some quagmire of stupid ill-conceived rules, laws and 

regulations."

 

But if you have the right woman or male by your side in the beginning, none 

of the garbage-pit regulations conceived by moronic politicians and 

government bureaucrats will deter you one iota from a beautiful long and 

enjoyable life with the mate you've loved beyond your wildest dreams and 

thoughts when you first said "I Do!"

 

I find the "bitterness shown here" by some extremely unfortunate for the so 

called "Victim!" But one must ask ..... "What happened to the "two way 

street of give and take?" Stubbornness of stupidity by both doesn't solve 

anything.

 

The "Whores of Hollywood" and societies of today's lust for all the crap 

stuff promoted in crappy celebrity magazines that cater to the witless fools


who see the events of Hollywood as... "They do, so I do!"  It is this kind 

of crap the completely innocent women and men in the first place, see 

divorce is the only answer. Then do it and the next thing you know they've 

grab another foolish male or female ready to wed. They do it as quickly and 

as fast "as a Saturday night whore changing her undies!" And all they've 

done is move them selves into another quagmire that ends again in divorce.

 

I'm sorry but I don't by all this bull-shit about divorce being the be-all 

answer to solving marital problems. Sure there are going to be the exception


simply because if the wrong mate was picked because she or he was a "WOW 

FACTOR IN THE SACK!" That only helps on cold winter nights, but that's only 

a part of a successful marriage.

 

I need not go on any longer as I know my married life was great, sure we had


some wild old verbal battles. Everybody does at sometime or other and anyone


saying they never had a squabble is probably lying. That's all part of 

Mother Natures Communications in working things out. After all it is a two 

way street of give and take.

 

Unfortunately nobody was around with a Leica to photograph some of our 

"discussions?" ;-) Oscar martial for the cover of LIFE magazine! ;-)

 

Bottom-line? We loved each other, enjoyed our great times together, had 4 

great and wonderful successful children. And now 10 Grand children who are 

also cracker jack kids and the oldest two will own their own business 

operations one of these days as they're already laying out plans and how. 20


& 21!

 

All a hell of a lot brighter than their grandfather when it comes to the 

"Art of running a business." OH yeah and both have wonderful sharp ladies by


their sides.

 

So there you go eh! I just wish it were 63 years and counting! :-( I miss 

her dearly. :-(

 

cheers,

ted